Cancer Knocks You Down

These are some of the ways Cancer breaks you down:

1. You are diagnosed with cancer. It feels like you've got a dog's choke collar on and you just peed on the carpet. Only, you haven't. Cancer just peed on you.
2. The surgery. Think about it: you are having surgery to remove one of the things that make you a woman. Oh yes, let's not forget the discussion you get before surgery ...you know the one about the advanced directive? And the form you have to fill out "just in case"? Nice.
3. The appointments. The waiting rooms, the forms, the endless scans, tests, exams, IV's, tech's searching for veins, bruises from their unsuccessful efforts. Basically you are poked and prodded over and over again. It leaves you wanting to hire that one person who could actually find the vein to come with you to every appointment that involves a needle.
4. The effect it has on your career. Cancer treatment must be aggressive. And it takes a long time. Cancer doesn't care how long you've been on the job or what your project plan is. It doesn't care if you have health insurance.
5. The chemotherapy weakens you physically. Chemo is made to kill cells. If you were active before diagnosis, you are stopped. If you were sedentary, forget it. You may have been able to do anything you wanted to. Cancer has a different idea about you now. And you will be brought to your knees. Literally.
6. The chemotherapy makes you bald. You are a woman, but you look like a _____ (who knows what?) People don't know what is going on with you, and they don't ask. I wish they would ask.
7. The hormone therapy. The chemotherapy will usually take a woman like me - premenopausal - and make her postmenopausal. I will never ovulate again. Imagine, you are a 39 year old estrogen-rich young woman in February, and then in November you are like a 55 year old woman. Oh yes, since my tumor is hormone receptor positive, it means that I will never be able to use hormone replacement therapy. Just another way Cancer takes away your womanhood.

There is no deciding how you proceed after your diagnosis. You attack back. You must. It's not easy. And Cancer has experience at it's job. It's good at it. So we fight. We fight the anxiety, we fight the depression, we fight the urge to vomit, we fight the urge to flee to someplace with a beach and no hospitals. It feels like we probably won't die in treatment, but we could come pretty close to losing control of our faculties and in doing so, lose our dignity. We wear those damn gowns open in the back.

But I can tell you that I am glad to endure all of it. Because as hard as Cancer tries to strip me of everything I was, I know there is more to me than my body. If there is cancer in my body, take it...take it any way you must to rid me of it...it wasn't mine and it didn't belong here. I am glad to be rid of it.

"What does not destroy me, makes me stronger."

-- Friedrich Nietzsche

"Endure and persist; this pain will turn to good by and by."

--Ovid